Your own thoughts may keep the distress turning over. A familiar person's voice, steadiness or simple confirmation can give the moment an edge to hold onto and let the intensity begin to drop.
- calling someone after a mistake and settling only when they say it can be fixed
- asking the same worried question until a trusted person answers gently
- feeling your breathing ease when someone says they aren't angry
- needing a familiar voice on the phone during an overwhelming moment
Looks vs reality
The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.
Looks like you're just looking for someone's approval or permission.
Feels like my nervous system is a runaway train and I need someone else to pull the emergency brake.
Looks like being a little childish or overly dependent.
Feels like my internal power supply is fried and I need to plug into someone else's calm to recharge.
Looks like you can't trust your own judgment.
Feels like my brain's 'everything is actually fine' signal is broken and I need to hear it from an outside source to believe it.
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