Conversation feels more manageable when the other person has the floor. You keep producing questions, follow their answers and build a clear structure around them, with much less risk of having to work out what to reveal about yourself.
- asking follow-up after follow-up until you know their whole career history
- moving quickly to another question whenever attention turns towards you
- leaving a conversation knowing everything about them while they know almost nothing about you
Looks vs reality
The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.
You're so curious and engaged! You're a great conversationalist.
I’m actually building a fortress of questions to keep the spotlight far, far away from me.
You're a great listener, but you're kind of a private person, huh?
Talking about myself feels like an improv scene with no script. Asking you questions lets me stick to the lines I know.
You seem so relaxed and in control of the conversation.
I'm holding a controller with a death grip. As long as you're talking, I'm steering us away from the topics that make me panic.
Wow, that was a great chat, I feel like you really get me.
The performance was a success. I have now vanished into thin air, leaving only your own stories behind.
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