A difficult social moment can lead to more monitoring, rehearsing and performing the next time. That extra effort may improve the surface for a while, but it also builds towards exhaustion, after which the whole cycle begins again.
- rehearsing every meeting after being told your tone seemed off
- performing cheerful small talk for weeks and then needing days alone
- returning from a crash determined to watch every social cue more closely
- cycling between being carefully polished and having no energy to perform at all
Looks vs reality
The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.
You're so great with people!
I'm running a social simulation at 200% capacity and the battery is draining fast.
Why are you suddenly so quiet?
My system resources are critically low. All non-essential social functions are shutting down.
They're so unpredictable.
It's not unpredictable at all. I over-extended myself, and now I'm crashing. It's cause and effect.
They just left without saying goodbye.
Eject! Eject! I had to get out of that situation before a total system meltdown.
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