One small familiar thing can give the day a reliable starting point. The same mug, route or first task creates a little patch of steadiness that makes everything after it easier to enter.
- starting every morning with coffee in one particular cup
- taking the same route to work even when another is slightly faster
- playing one familiar song before beginning a difficult task
- doing the same first chore after arriving home so the evening can begin
Looks vs reality
The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.
"Why can't you just use a different cup?"
"This isn't about the cup. This is the foundation of my entire day, and you just asked me to yank it out."
"You're being so rigid and inflexible."
"I'm creating one single point of predictability so I have the capacity to be flexible with everything else."
"It seems a little childish to be so attached to an object."
"This object is my shield. It's a physical connection to a feeling of safety and 'okay-ness'."
"You're just making things harder on yourself."
"This one 'hard' rule makes a thousand other things easier."
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