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The Toothbrushing Standoff

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  • Explorer: A broad starting view for recognising patterns without choosing one neurotype.
  • ADHD: Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. Includes what some people still call ADD.
  • Autism: Autism spectrum. This view focuses on autistic patterns, sensory and social processing, predictability, and overwhelm.
  • AuDHD: A common shorthand for people who are both autistic and ADHD, or who strongly relate to both sets of patterns.
  • HSP: Highly Sensitive Person. Not a diagnosis, but a useful trait lens for sensitivity, depth of processing, and emotional or environmental intensity.

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Do you ever find yourself standing in the bathroom, knowing you should brush your teeth, but feeling physically unable to start?

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Before the brush is even wet, the whole sensory sequence is already waiting: bristles, foam, mint and a taste that hangs around. One brief bathroom task can therefore sit untouched for far longer than its clock time makes sense of.

  • standing at the sink and delaying the first touch of the brush
  • using almost no toothpaste because the foam quickly becomes too much
  • gagging when mint flavour spreads across your mouth
  • putting off bedtime because toothbrushing is still waiting

Looks vs reality

The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.

How it gets read

They just forgot.

What’s actually happening

I am actively avoiding a wall of sensory 'nope'.

How it gets read

They're being lazy.

What’s actually happening

My brain is overwhelmed and can't execute the command.

How it gets read

They don't care about their teeth.

What’s actually happening

I care deeply but the cost of doing it right now feels too high.

How it gets read

It only takes two minutes!

What’s actually happening

It's a two-minute sensory assault.

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