Your attention goes quickly to the person or group being dismissed, excluded or treated unfairly. Their struggle feels close, and you find yourself firmly on their side even when nobody else seems to notice.
- supporting the least popular contestant because everyone has written them off
- speaking up when one person is being talked over in a meeting
- feeling a fictional outsider's disappointment as if it were personal
- following a small campaign because the people affected aren't being heard
Looks vs reality
The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.
Looks like: Being argumentative or contrarian.
Feels like: My internal sense of fairness is screaming and I can't ignore it.
Looks like: Making someone else's problem all about you.
Feels like: I recognize my own pain in them, and that shared vulnerability makes me need to protect them.
Looks like: Just looking for a fight.
Feels like: Witnessing an injustice is a jolt to my nervous system that demands a response.
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