You're overcomplicating things.
I'm not complicating it. I'm seeing all the parts you're missing.
What it made you think
My brain is wrong. I am making things difficult for everyone, and my need to understand is a burden. I should be able to just 'get it' like a normal person.
The True Story
Your need for a complete picture is not a burden. You are allowed to take the time you need to build a map that feels safe to you.
What is happening in your system?
A flood of shame hits, triggering an instinct to either freeze or fawn. Your brain, which was just in a high-focus analytical mode, is now forced into a defensive social-processing mode, which can cause a total system shutdown.
What changes in you...
You learn to stop asking clarifying questions around this person. You hide your process, pretend to understand, and then go figure it out alone, which increases the chance of errors and reinforces the idea that you are difficult.
How can I navigate this in the moment?
A few ways to respond when this lands. Take whichever feels right, or none at all.
The Low-Battery Out
Okay. I need to think about that.
The Honest Explanation
I understand it looks complicated. My brain needs to map out all the details like this to feel clear before I can move forward.
Drawing the Line
I appreciate your perspective, but this is the process I need to use. Please let me continue.
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