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The Phone Call Dread

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Do you often write out a script or bullet points before making a simple phone call, like ordering food or scheduling an appointment?

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A brief phone call can occupy far more time before it happens than it takes to complete. You rehearse the opening, predict the possible replies and wait for the moment when pressing call feels possible.

  • writing out a script to book a routine appointment
  • checking a shop's opening hours repeatedly before phoning
  • practising your first sentence aloud and still hanging up before it rings
  • spending an afternoon preparing for a call that lasts under a minute

Looks vs reality

The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.

How it gets read

Just ignoring the reminder to call.

What’s actually happening

Mentally rehearsing every possible conversational path and outcome.

How it gets read

Being lazy and procrastinating.

What’s actually happening

Feeling completely stuck in task paralysis, unable to initiate.

How it gets read

Making a mountain out of a molehill.

What’s actually happening

Drowning in overwhelm from the social and cognitive demands of a live interaction.

How it gets read

They seem perfectly fine texting all day.

What’s actually happening

Texting allows me precious time to process and craft a response; calls are unpredictable and immediate.

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