Self-discovery can be full of small moments when something you assumed was universal turns out not to be. An ordinary detail of your inner life suddenly becomes visible as a difference, and the list keeps growing.
- mentioning your constant inner narration and learning a friend experiences silence
- discovering that other people aren't bothered by the faint electrical hum in the room
- asking how everyone manages a familiar difficulty and being met with blank looks
Looks vs reality
The same Experience can look very different from the outside than it feels on the inside.
"You're talking about this all the time. Is it your new personality?"
My entire past is being re-indexed with this new information. It's like finding the missing chapter to my own life story.
"Everybody feels that way sometimes. It's not that unique."
I'm realizing the scale and frequency of my experience was never 'normal.' It’s a profound relief to know I wasn't just failing at being human.
"Why do you need a label? Don't let it define you."
This isn't a definition, it's a map. It's giving me language for a country I've lived in my whole life without knowing its name.
"It can't have been that bad, you've managed this whole time."
That 'managing' was an exhausting, lifelong performance. I'm just now calculating the cost of the ticket.
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