Hurry up.
Ah, the magic words that instantly make my brain move in slow motion.
What it made you think
I am too slow. My natural pace is an inconvenience. I am failing at this simple task and holding everyone back.
The True Story
Your internal clock runs on its own time. You are not broken for needing a moment to catch up with the world's pace.
What is happening in your system?
The sudden demand for speed is interpreted by the nervous system as an alarm or a threat. This triggers a freeze response, which short-circuits the executive functions required for sequencing, task-switching, and physical movement.
What changes in you...
You begin to pre-emptively rush yourself around this person, leading to more fumbling and mistakes. You may also start to avoid situations that involve timed transitions with them, like leaving the house together.
How can I navigate this in the moment?
A few ways to respond when this lands. Take whichever feels right, or none at all.
The Low-Battery Out
I'm going as fast as I can.
The Honest Explanation
I understand we need to go, but my brain freezes when I'm rushed. Giving me a moment of quiet will actually help me move faster.
Drawing the Line
Saying that is making it harder for me to finish. I need you to please stop.
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