You're not trying to get better.
It feels like I'm running a marathon no one else can see, and then they tell me I'm not even moving.
What it made you think
I'm failing, and my efforts are invisible. They think I'm choosing to stay this way.
The True Story
Your efforts are valid, even when they are not visible. You are not broken; you are fighting a battle others cannot see.
What is happening in your system?
My nervous system immediately goes into defense mode. I feel unseen and judged, triggering a freeze response.
What changes in you...
I'll start hiding my struggles to avoid judgment. I'll become more isolated and less likely to ask for help.
How can I navigate this in the moment?
A few ways to respond when this lands. Take whichever feels right, or none at all.
The Low-Battery Out
I'm doing my best. I need a break.
The Honest Explanation
It takes a lot of energy for me to manage things that come easily to you. It might not look like I'm trying, but I promise I am.
Drawing the Line
I understand you're trying to help, but this isn't helpful. Please don't say that to me again.
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