I’m not good at being a person.
It's like everyone else got the instruction manual, and I'm just wandering around guessing.
What it made you think
You hear a confession of inadequacy and a cry for help, assuming the person feels they are failing at basic life skills.
The True Story
You are not broken. You are uniquely wired, and the world needs your unique perspective.
What is happening in your system?
The person's nervous system is overwhelmed by the constant demand to mask and conform, leading to a deep sense of disconnect and exhaustion.
What changes in you...
Hearing this repeatedly leads to increased self-isolation and avoidance of situations that trigger feelings of inadequacy.
How can I navigate this in the moment?
A few ways to respond when this lands. Take whichever feels right, or none at all.
The Low-Battery Out
That sounds incredibly draining. I'm here to listen.
The Honest Explanation
It sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure to meet expectations that don't fit you. Is that right?
Drawing the Line
I appreciate you sharing, but I don't have the bandwidth to offer solutions right now. I can listen, though.
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